I have a really good friend….
When I grow up I want to be just like her.
She is SMART with a capital s. She is as real as you get. She is successful, a great mom, and if someone leaves a snarky comment here on Smitten she will eat them for lunch. haha. But really this gal has the total package. She will tell you “it’s smoke and mirrors baby”…but it’s not true. One of the things that I love most about her is her advice. She tells it like it is and you can’t help but love her for it.
The other day we were discussing this little thing called life and how we want to be women free of drama. I asked her how you create that life because I want in on that piece of heaven on earth. This was her reply- “You’ve gotta learn to sift. Find the truth in the criticism, decide if it’s something you need to change, and let the rest go. You are the captain of your ship. The Great Bullshit Sorter. Reserve the right to call bullshit when you see it & move on.”
Oh man…I was laughing so hard and at the same time tears were rolling down my face. My little people were looking at me like I had gone mad but I couldn’t help it. It was the funniest thing I had ever heard but also one of the most profound. First off, she was absolutely right I AM THE CAPTAIN OF MY SHIP. I choose who and what I have to let into my life. I choose what I do with the criticism I receive and I have the choice to let go of the things that are untrue or that cannot be changed. Secondly, who doesn’t want to master being the “The Great Bullshit Sorter”? Who doesn’t want to look at the situation, sift and sort to find the truth, call the crap and move on?
Oh, pick me! Pick me, I say!
It sounds so easy. Instead I am the person who stews, frets and worries. Who let’s it eat at me. Who picks myself apart and blames myself for once again not being enough. Who thinks that any and everything anyone says about me is a truth. Whether it is or not, I choose to believe it. That is what I have done for so long. Never giving myself any credit in the good I have to offer. I don’t have to be the girl who is afraid of her own voice. I can have a voice. I have the power to recognize untruths and set myself free from their chains. I can and I will.
So, today join me in giving yourself permission to seek the truth of the criticism, call the bullshit, and move on. Let’s choose to be the “captain of our ship” and join the club of “The Great Bullshit Sorters.” Our own lives are filled with enough “crap” it’s time to dejunk the trunk of the plunder we have collected but don’t need to carry around.
Free yourself from the chains of untruths you have in your life and enjoy your “junk” free trunk for the first time. We all deserve a junk free trunk, don’t ya think?!
Sort.
Sift.
and
Move on!
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TOTALLY TRUE POST!