Why the HELL NOT?!

Each year I pick a motto to help me get through life. Last years was “it is what it is” and served me well.  When life gave me it’s mountains, I looked at life and said “it is what it is”, put on my hiking boots and got climbing. When something happened that was discouraging or hard- it got a “it is what it is” as I tried to make it un-hard. If you ask any of my friends it was a phrase that I said often about my own life and also others.

 

This year my motto didn’t come easy and it was really hard to find one that would keep me on the uppity up because things like- What the fudgety fudge are the words that wanted to come out but this was far from a productive/helpful thought. I needed to find my motto and quick before this year had blown by- my happy life depended on it.

 

A while back I went to blog conference to learn how to make Smitten more savvy. I’ll be honest and say I didn’t really want to go because social gatherings of that capacity make me physically ill- but we can do hard things right? 450-women (mostly girls in the same room was like a High School popularity contest on steroids. Just sayin’) there to learn about bloggigty blogging. My contributor Carolyn came with me and after the whole fiasco, she kindly sat me down and told me as nicely as she could I needed to get my crap together. She was right…I was really struggling with my confidence and what I had to offer the world.  I wanted things but I was too scared to go out, be seen and make things happen. Does this sound familiar? How often do we do this in our lives? How often do we want something but we are afraid to make it happen; afraid of the consequences; afraid of what others will say about us. Yep, Mr. Fear is a life sucker- outer. He sucks the life right out of you, if you give him the power. Fear will hold you back if you let it and fear was a big factor in my confidence- heck my whole life!

 

After Carolyn made me aware I was on a mission to get my crap together and that is when it happened…the 2014 motto came to me in the middle of the night while I was laying there wide awake, staring at the ceiling, trying to figure out my life. I was thinking about why other people get all these opportunities and how that affects my confidence. I didn’t have confidence because I felt like I had something to say, something to bring to the table but no one was seeing it and then it hit me like a ton of bricks- You have to make it happen Kallie. You have to put yourself out there and be ready to hear no, but KNOW there is a yes.  My motto for 2014 is one that makes me smile, gives me a boost of courage and keeps my confidence in perspective.

 

WHY THE HELL NOT?!

 

 

Pretty profound right? You want to be the President of the United States-why the hell not? You want to be in control of your life- why the hell not? You want to be a better mother- why the hell not? You want to go back to school- why the hell not? You want to travel the world- why the hell not? You want to teach yoga- why the hell not? You want to write a book- why the hell not? Whatever you want to be, see, do, make happen, I ask you-WHY THE HELL NOT? What is it that holds you back from making things in your life happen?

 

After this came to me, I have tried to live each day without fear. I decided to take the leap and I dreamed big. I sent emails I would never have been brave enough to send other wise. I have thought outside my box and made things happen that are waaaay out of my comfort zone, and actually enjoyed them. I have seen doors of opportunity open. I got a million no’s and a few amazing yes’s. It all happened because my attitude changed. Instead of worrying about failure or being told no, or of not being enough, I started thinking- what do I have to lose? Really, when we sit down and think about it, what do we have to lose? So far I have not lost anything, if anything I have only gained- in knowledge, experience and opportunities.

 

You my friend are the captain of your own ship. You are the driver behind the wheel. You are the power to your outlet, and YOU are the only thing standing in your way of making things happen. You are the only person who can take your life where you want it to go.

 

YOU have the power to make things happen.

 

You just have to step outside of your box, look Mr. Fear in the face and ask “why the hell not?”

 

xoxo

Kallie

 

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