I bet you didn’t realize that you’re in sales. Yep. I mean full-on, wheel-and-deal, you-want-what-I-have salesperson.
Don’t believe me? Check this out…
* If you’ve ever convinced a three year old that broccoli is good for them – you’re in sales.
* If you’ve ever persuaded a friend or family member to do something for you – you’re in sales.
* If you’ve ever influenced someone to purchase something you found on sale – you’re in sales.
and when it comes to marriage or finding the right guy-
If you’ve ever dressed up, put on make-up AND perfume, curled your hair and batted your eyes — Yep – you guessed it – you’re in sales.
You SOLD them on YOU.
So, here’s where sooo many problems start to occur in relationships and marriage – WE STOP SELLING!!!!
Instead of getting up in the morning and getting ready for the day, we settle for sweats and a messy bun. (guilty)
Instead of batting our eyes, giggling for no reason and saying ‘Are you available later tonight’, we say ‘why are you so this and that, nag, nag, nag, complain, complain, complain. (guilty)
Instead of improving our minds, our health and going after our dreams, we’ve dedicated our lives to watching someone else’s reality and traded adventure for movies and sitcoms about survivors. (guilty)
For some reason, AFTER we get our man – we QUIT or day job. We quit selling him on what he bought when he met us. We quit selling him on the fact that he wants us, needs us and would seriously be lost without us. We quit selling him on our charm, our wit, our sense of adventure and excitement.
And let me tell ya ladies – if you’re not constantly selling him on what you have – someone else is selling him on what they have. Sad — but true.
The day this reality hit me in the face (yes – I was wearing sweats, no make up with my hair pulled back) I about fell over.
No wonder we were struggling. When I sold him originally – I didn’t sell a nag. (He would of ran the other way!) I sold him a woman full of spunk, conviction and all the you-have-to-have-me appeal I could muster.
I had stopped selling myself. I had quit my day job.
Now here’s where most people start to say – but this, but that…
But nothing. If you want to improve your relationship start WORKING again. You know how to sell. You know what it takes to make him happy. You know what he likes, wants, needs.
Forget yourself and go to work.
Start selling again. Only good will come from it.
Ginger is a Cancer Survivor and Activist.
She has recently been nominated as “Woman of the Year”
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I just wanted to thank you for writing this. I read this earlier (on my phone) and was unable to comment but I needed this. Made me think for sure
xoxo
Hi Franchesca,
I’m so glad it resonated with you. It hit me right-between-the-eyes and has done so much to improve my marriage. All the best to you!
Ginger